Ah, Proverbs 31.
One of the most quoted verses among Christian women (well, at least on Pinterest and on blogs).
But what does it mean to be a Proverbs 31 women?
Join me as I study each verse to discover what it means, and what it takes to become a Proverbs 31 woman.
- "She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life." NRSV
- "She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life." NIV
- "She will do him good and not evil, all the days of her life." KJV
- "She brings him good not harm, all the days of her life." NLT
- "Never spiteful, she treats him generously all her life long." MSG
Let's take a closer look at the definition (and synonyms) of the word spiteful;
- Evil Intent
Spiteful didn't seem like that bad of a word until I broke it down, did it?
- "...she does him good, and not harm..."
Though, I'm sure bodily harm is included; I think it's more emotional and verbal harm.
It saddens me when I see a wife belittle her husband.
Always putting him down, making nasty, unkind comments to him (about him); causing fights over nothing, always snapping at him and jumping down his throat. Acting as if nothing he does is good enough, like he isn't good enough.
That's definitely not what being married is suppose to look like, or what a wife should be doing.
A Proverbs 31 wife made a life long commitment to herself, her husband and God. It means she should consider the hearts and feelings of those around her before herself.
Women today have the reputation of having a 'me first' complex; being manipulative, self-centered, and some even seeking to be dominant over her husband and set on being argumentative (we all sadly know that girl who insists on starting fights).
Let's face it, on almost every sitcom, the women is controlling and always talks bad about her husband (both in public and in private).
In contrast, EVERY DAY (not just when she feels like it) the Proverbs 31 wife does her husband good and not evil. She is constantly seeking to bring him good, build him up.
We've all heard this bible verse read at a wedding...
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
- "Love is patient, love is kind, love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way, it is not irritable or resentful. It does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." NRSV
...I always wonder how many brides take it to heart.
Look, you can't control your husbands actions or behavior, but you can control your own. Your words and actions should reflect your love.
The bible doesn't say show him respect so long as he shows you love. It's not a tit-for-tat deal.
Marriage is an agape kind of love. Agape is a selfless, unconditional, sacrificial love. The highest of the four types of love in the Bible.